In the realm of parenting, opinions often differ. While some parents advocate for strictness, others lean towards leniency. So, what’s the magic formula for raising accomplished children? Daily wisely interviewed several parents of doctors, lawyers, business-people, and other accomplished children, and surprisingly converged on a few unified themes.
Being a Pillar of Support, No Matter What
While guidance is a cornerstone of parenting, there’s a thin line between guiding and micromanaging. Constantly correcting a child’s actions or speech can inadvertently stifle their confidence, making them second-guess even their most innate responses. It’s pivotal to pick battles wisely, focusing on constructive feedback rather than incessant correction. After all, making mistakes and learning from them is a quintessential part of growing up.
Recognizing and respecting a child’s right to their own point of view is paramount. Children, just like adults, come up with their unique perspectives, opinions, and feelings. By allowing them a platform to express, even if it diverges from the parental viewpoint, fosters an environment of trust and mutual respect. It sends a clear message: their thoughts are valued.
In essence, being a supportive parent in today’s world means evolving with the times, keeping the core values intact but adapting the approach. Through understanding, respect, and restrained guidance, modern parents can pave the way for confident, independent, and resilient children.
Setting Expectations, But Let Them Find the Way
The essence of this parenting philosophy is to mold children into individuals who can seamlessly balance the non-negotiables with the desirables. By making clear certain expectations- such as achieving A’s in school or reading at least one hour per day, parents should set clear expectations, but give leeway on how the child accomplishes that goal.
Furthermore, by letting the child be in control of their own timetable, they’ll naturally learn the skill of time management, juggling their academic responsibilities with their personal interests.
The home front, too, serves as a vital classroom. Instead of assigning specific chores, parents could make clear tasks around the house that an older child could help with.
If the child is passionate about cooking, they could take over helping prep or cook dinner for certain nights or help clean the dishes. Alternatively, if they have a green thumb, they might opt for gardening duties. This approach not only ensures household responsibilities are met but also allows the child to take charge and integrate their passions.
You are the Lighthouse
Successful parents ensure children recognize them as a safe haven. By communicating that they can always turn to them for assistance, guidance, or even a listening ear, children are more likely to navigate life’s challenges with confidence. Such an assurance fosters a secure environment, where kids feel empowered to express their vulnerabilities without fear of judgment or rebuke.
But compassion isn’t just about being a sounding board; it’s also about the gift of presence. Spending quality time with children, be it through shared hobbies, heartfelt conversations, or simple daily rituals, creates an atmosphere of genuine connection and understanding.
Moreover, to truly embed your values as core values in your children, actions will speak louder than words. Engaging in activities together—whether it’s volunteering at a local shelter, helping a neighbor in need, or even frequent trips to visit extended family set a tangible precedent for children about the kind of adults they can aspire to become.
Josh is the owner and lead writer at Daily Wisely. His career has taken him from finance to blogging, and now shares his insights with readers of Daily Wisely.
Josh's work and authoritative advice have appeared in major publications like Nasdaq, Forbes, The Sun, Yahoo! Finance, CBS News, Fortune, The Street, MSN Money, and Go Banking Rates. Josh has over 15 years of experience on Wall Street, and currently shares his financial expertise in investing, wealth management, markets, taxes, real estate, and personal finance on his other website, Top Dollar Investor.
Josh graduated from Cornell University with a degree from the Dyson School of Applied Economics & Management at the SC Johnson College of Business.