The end of a relationship can often be a devastating event that happens at some point to most of us. Some people end their relationship with mutual consent, while others have no choice due to pressure from their spouse or family.
After a time, we tend to heal, and you still have a whole life ahead of you. Many believe you can find love more than once in a lifetime, but often, knowing when it’s time to get back out there is the biggest uncertainty and could even be downright scary.
Understanding the Healing Process
There are various stages of healing after a relationship has run its course that, sadly, we must process before we can actually move on.
Give Time to Yourself to Process the News
It is important to process the end of a relationship before you can start healing from it. Give yourself time and seek support from your loved ones. Remember to take care of your mental and physical health instead of developing bad habits such as skipping meals or bottling up your feelings.
You should also avoid rushing into making decisions such as hiring a lawyer or taking your children in the event of a divorce or family separation. Try to sit down with your partner to have a proper talk and understand whether the relationship can be salvaged and if you want to save it or not.
Accept Your Emotions
When the relationship has truly ended, you may feel a variety of emotions- anger, frustration, grief, sadness, exhaustion, compassion, or relief. Sometimes, feelings of shame and guilt may also follow because you may think more about how people will perceive you in your next phase of life. Avoid suppressing these emotions. Instead, acknowledge and accept that they are natural and part of living.
Consider Outside Help
Once you have accepted your feelings, it will be time to adjust your life. If you have just ended a marriage or divided a family, you might want to renew a financial plan or devise a co-parenting plan that meets your new circumstances.
Remember, during these things, you must take care of yourself. This is why you may consider seeking therapy and financial or legal advice to help locally recover. It will also give you time to understand your emotions better and help you become more available for future relationships.
What Are the Signs You’re Ready for a New Relationship?
Some people are ready to get into new relationships months after a relationship ends, while others can take years. If you get into the dating scene without being ready, it can have a negative impact on your emotional recovery. Depending on how long it has been since you have been in the dating game, getting back out there can be overwhelming. After all, online dating and dating apps have completely changed the dating scene. Here are some signs that can help you determine whether you are ready to put yourself out in the dating world again.
1. You Are Emotionally Stable
One of the most important signs that you are ready for new relationships is emotional stability. You can identify this by things such as self-esteem. If you’re ready for a relationship, you may be more confident about yourself.
It is also important that you have accepted your separation and have gotten closure. If you still have lingering feelings for your ex, getting into a new relationship will not help you move past them.
Give importance to self-care when you’re healing. You should ask yourself why you want to date someone new to understand if you’re getting into a relationship to feel good about yourself or to build a life with someone else.
2. You Have Realistic Goals About Your New Relationships
Another way to know you’re ready is by understanding your goals. It is important to have realistic expectations. For example, don’t expect to get married right after getting into a relationship. You should also avoid deluding yourself by having complete confidence that the relationship will last. Sometimes, you may not fall in love with the person, or you may have different future goals.
3. You Understand That the Relationship Is Not Just For Coping
Many people make one common mistake after moving on: they jump into a relationship, thinking it will help them get over their failed relationship. Remember, it is not a new partner’s job to make you forget about your ex or help you feel good. You should also not expect another partner to offer you advice on how to move on. These are signs that you are not ready for a relationship.
When you know that getting into a new relationship is to build a new bond and enjoy new experiences once you have processed your divorce, it means you are ready to date.
Embracing a New Beginning With a New Partner
When you’re ready to meet new people and put yourself out there, you may, in fact, find lasting love. However, you should know that the process will be gradual, as any healthy relationship takes time to develop.
You should take things slow with your new partner while being self-aware about your emotions and dating reasons. It is also important to be patient when entering the dating scene again.
The most important thing to remember about embracing a new partner is committing to their emotional well-being. Using the person to get over someone else is not the way to start a relationship. It can also affect the new partner’s mental health negatively.
So, give yourself time to heal properly and take things slow in new relationships.
This is everything you need to know about love after love. The separation process may be hard to endure, but you can make things easier by self-care and attending counseling sessions. Once you are confident about yourself and want to meet to try new experiences, you can enter the dating world again.
Josh is the owner and lead writer at Daily Wisely. His career has taken him from finance to blogging, and now shares his insights with readers of Daily Wisely.
Josh's work and authoritative advice have appeared in major publications like Nasdaq, Forbes, The Sun, Yahoo! Finance, CBS News, Fortune, The Street, MSN Money, and Go Banking Rates. Josh has over 15 years of experience on Wall Street, and currently shares his financial expertise in investing, wealth management, markets, taxes, real estate, and personal finance on his other website, Top Dollar Investor.
Josh graduated from Cornell University with a degree from the Dyson School of Applied Economics & Management at the SC Johnson College of Business.