Breaking up is hard to do. But sometimes, it’s the best thing for both parties involved. If you’ve decided that it’s time to break up with your significant other, there are a few things you need to keep in mind. In this blog post, we will discuss some of the best tips that can help make the process a little bit easier.
Do It in Person
If you are looking to break up with your significant other, then you should always do it in person. You should have the confidence to face them when you are breaking the bad news. Although it may be tempting to avoid a potentially uncomfortable conversation by breaking up with your significant other via text or email, it is much more respectful (and ultimately kinder in the long run) to have a face-to-face conversation. This allows your partner the opportunity to ask questions and fully understand the reasons for the breakup.
Don’t Break Up in Public
This one is a big No-No. You should never break up with anyone in a public place. In addition to doing the breakup in person, it is important to also make sure that the conversation takes place in a private setting. If you do it in a public place, then this will create a scene, and people will start judging you for your own personal life. So it is best to keep your private and personal matters confined to your house. Breaking up with someone in a public space not only puts them in an embarrassing and potentially humiliating situation, but it can also hinder their ability to fully express and process their emotions. Choose a location where both parties feel comfortable and can have a respectful, calm conversation.
Be Honest and Direct
When breaking up with someone, it can be tempting to soften the blow by not fully stating your true reasons or using excuses. However, being honest and direct about your decision to end the relationship will ultimately lead to a clearer understanding of the situation for both parties. It may be uncomfortable in the moment, but it will allow for a more respectful and healthy closure. This does not mean that you have to start telling the other person repeatedly about their wrongdoings or their habits that you don’t like. Try to be calm and decent about the breakup and do it in a graceful manner.
Give Yourself Time to Process
Ending a significant relationship can be an emotionally taxing experience, so make sure to take the time to process your feelings and deal with any lingering emotions before jumping into a new relationship. Taking the time to focus on yourself and heal from the breakup will benefit both you and your future relationships.
Think About What You Are Going To Say Beforehand
It may be tempting to just blurt out everything you have been feeling on the spot, but it is important to take some time and think about what you want to say. This will ensure that the conversation stays calm and respectful. Write the things you want to say on paper and practice it the day before. Make sure you don’t move away from what you have written; otherwise, your emotions might get the better of you, and you might get carried away.
Communicate Your Reasons Clearly
When explaining your reasons for ending things with your significant other, try to be as clear and specific as possible. Avoid using phrases like “it’s not you, it’s me” or “I just don’t feel the same anymore.” These statements can leave room for confusion and hurt feelings.
Be Prepared For a Negative Reaction
It is important to remember that breakups are never easy for either party involved. Your significant other may react with anger, sadness, or even denial. It is important to remain calm and try to empathize with their emotions, but also remember that you are entitled to end the relationship if it no longer serves you.
Be Confident About the Break-Up
It can be easy to second guess your decision, but remember that you have ultimately made a choice to end the relationship because it is what is best for you. Trust in yourself and your decision, and don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for taking care of your own happiness.
Don’t Drag It Too Much
Once the initial conversation is over, don’t continue to bring up the breakup or try to have multiple discussions about it. Let your significant other have time and space to process their emotions and move on. Remember to also give yourself time and space for healing as well.
Don’t Tell Them a List of Things They Have Done Wrong
While it is important to communicate your reasons for the breakup, try not to focus on putting the blame solely on your significant other. This can just lead to more hurt feelings and animosity. Instead, focus on explaining how their actions have affected you and why you ultimately feel the need to end things.
Stay Civil and Respectful
Ending a relationship can be a difficult and emotional process, but it is important to remember to treat your significant other with respect. Avoid name-calling or saying hurtful things in the heat of the moment. Keep the conversation civil and try to maintain a level of understanding and empathy for each other’s emotions.
Breaking up with a significant other is never an easy decision, but it is important to take the time to communicate honestly and respectfully. Take the time to process your emotions and trust in your decision before moving on to new relationships. Remember to treat your significant other with respect during difficult conversations and give each other space for healing afterward.
Josh is the owner and lead writer at Daily Wisely. His career has taken him from finance to blogging, and now shares his insights with readers of Daily Wisely.
Josh's work and authoritative advice have appeared in major publications like Nasdaq, Forbes, The Sun, Yahoo! Finance, CBS News, Fortune, The Street, MSN Money, and Go Banking Rates. Josh has over 15 years of experience on Wall Street, and currently shares his financial expertise in investing, wealth management, markets, taxes, real estate, and personal finance on his other website, Top Dollar Investor.
Josh graduated from Cornell University with a degree from the Dyson School of Applied Economics & Management at the SC Johnson College of Business.